I just read an article in Forbes by August Turak called, Are You Coachable? The Five Steps to Coachability.
The article suggests there are five main traits that make someone coachable, and being coachable means you’re open to suggestions and new approaches to reach your objectives. You’re always in control of your own choices, but by being a life-long learner you’re constantly equipping yourself with new tools and knowledge that can aid your journey — close off, and you limit your success.
Here are a couple of paragraphs that really stood out to me:
“The fourth trait is a willingness to surrender control. Even when we do find a mentor we often put him in an impossible situation. We implicitly insist that we will only give up control once we have seen results. In fact we only get results if we are willing to give up control. Unwillingness to surrender control is the single biggest reason for the lamentable fact that most authentic change is precipitated by a crisis. Ironically, the reason why most of us need a coach in the first place is to learn how to give up control.
I often hear the argument that being coachable is a dangerous trait unless we are ‘certain’ that we have the right coach. But while I am sympathetic, authentic change is a journey into the unknown, and a journey into the unknown is by definition a journey into uncertainty. Insisting on certainty is just another bogus constraint we impose to stay off the hook.
The final trait is faith. The problem with life is that it must be lived forward and only understood backwards. In my own experience this is especially true when it comes to working with a coach. The benefits of change are often only obvious after the change has occurred. An alcoholic only truly understand the benefits of sobriety when he becomes sober. In fact, as my golf lessons painfully revealed, usually things get worse before they get better. Only hindsight is 20/20, and that is why we so often hear someone exclaim, ‘If I knew then what I know now I would’ve changed years ago.’”
Personally as a Christian and a coach, I’m constantly reminded of that willingness to surrender and have faith. I’ve noticed that the more I try to be “certain” about things the less “certain” those things actually are
Posted by: Nick Ventuerlla